“ONce a human being has arrived on this Earth, communication is the largest single factor in determining what happens to him in the world.” – Virginia Satir

This is a quote that I will remember and use for the rest of my life.  It’s encouraging, inspiring, and yet it is also extremely daunting.  My greatest skill is communication , so that is why it is encouraging, but I am also careless with my words l, or use them as weapons to wound and hurt.  Th hear this quote and to think upon it, that my skill or lack thereof and the role that this will play in my life makes me realize that I have a lot of improving to do.  It has made me decide to devote my full effort to this class (Public Speaking)  so that I can get everything possible out of it to maximize my potential.

One of the things that struck me about this chapter was the part where it said that communication is irreversible.  I like the quote: “One seldom regrets unspoken words.”  Like I said earlier, I have the gift of gab, but I often speak  without thinking about the impact my words will have.  This is a great problem for me because I am at the crossroads of my life, in the next couple of years and my actions, words, behavior during them will determine what happens with the rest of my life.  My biggest challenge over the last couple of years has been slowing myself down.  When somebody asks what is going on with me I tell them “slow motion.”  This is a reminder to myself to slow down and think before I act, or speak.  I used to operate under the misconception that I had to be moving fast at all times or I would gt bored or not get to my destination.  Now I understand that “slow motion is better than no motion, and no motion is better than moving backwards.”  I fully believe that when I master this in my speech than I will have mattered it in all aspects of my life.

I also was a big fan of the book “Communication Skills for your life.”  The part where it said that every time you talk with someone you either enlarge or diminish that person hit hard.  I am playing chess with my life right now, those reminders serve to drive somehow everything I do and say matters.  In addition I do not wish to be the kind of person who when others finish a conversation with me they do not want to have another.  The last two things I will speak about here are the topics of “Not taking things so personally,” and “listening without verbal interruption.”  those are two things that I find myself doing with frustrating regularity.  When I take things personally, I usually respond with person ao attacks and as you can imagine I engage in a lot of verbal sparing.  As for interrupting ever since I read about the twelve second rule (wait 12 seconds before you answer someone.) I have paid more attention to that.  I find that I interrupt way too much.  Largely because I find that either what I have to say is more important or i just don’t want to hear something I already know.  Both of these reasons are rude and arrogant.and unacceptable.

As I am,

Prince

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